So it’s been awhile, I mean I have written about 50 blogs (at least) in my head... but to sit down and do it... I couldn’t find the right words and feelings until now. I know what you’re thinking new mom too busy, too tired, too different yada yada yada.... but HOLD UP
Not it at all...
To be perfectly honest I have been enjoying my time away
Thats right, you heard me- I have enjoyed my daughters first 10 months of life!
is that taboo or what!? I finally figured out why I was having such a hard time knowing what to say- society wants me to pick a side... mom who overcomes the struggle of motherhood or mom who gives in to the craziness...
but guess what I know a third option... I am loving me and motherhood and its challenges and its joys all at the same time!
And guess what else I don’t feel guilty for any of it!
The internet is saturated with all kinds of different content “mommy it’s okay to feel this and it’s okay to feel that” and guess what it sure as hell is! Also it’s okay to feel both, feel the same, or feel different.
I don’t think motherhood has to change you, but I’ll be surprised if it doesn’t change your priorities.
If you were a go getter before you will probably be a go getter again... if you liked to be way chill you probably wont suddenly find a second gear...
Motherhood doesnt necessarily alter your very being... and quite frankly I’m sick of the stigma that it does.
If you love being at home with babies and feel like a bad ass doing so good for you and/or you love being a mom but have someone help you in the child rearing process good for you too.
But please mommas and society stop trying to tell moms they need to pick or get to a mentality.
ALL MOMS OF ALL TYPES ARE BAD ASS
I am a mom and I am enjoying the many moments of motherhood and the types of mother I am, day by day as they come.
Somedays I am “boss mom”
Signing new clients and making dollar dollar bills y’all (Kyle probably wishes I was this mom more often... haha or maybe thats just my own ego)
Somedays I am “hott mess mom”
like seriously have you lived in FL and skipped a shower... too literal?
Somedays I am “Pintrest Insta mom queen”
nailed it! What can I say... and that outfit thooo
Somedays I am “fit mom”
but really those nursing calories
Somedays I am “entire season of Grey’s Anatomy mom”
I mean not a whole season because that’s literally 24 hrs but you know what I mean
and about 100 other “mom titles”
that is the beauty of life though isn’t it... we are not stuck in one category! The struggle is real and sometimes there is no struggle!
So on that note I want to talk about fitness and appearances
guess what mommas you don’t have to get that body back right away or even ever (physically idk if its possible to put the female body completely back) but if you want to workout go for it! And sweat your momma booty off as much as you would like! If you workout one day or seven its up to you! Physical health is up to you but that mental health is a priority and like I said you don’t have to change but your priorities probably will! Keep that mind and that heart strong for you and your families. You can’t fill other people’s glass if you’re empty! And if you get there by fitness, pintrest, therapist or even a little blue pill there is no shame in any mom game!
and there is especially no shame in enjoying the mom game!
What you find here may or may not be fitness related. It may or may not be what you needed to hear, regardless it is what I needed to say!