Often we think of diets a strict ridged things, that we are either on or off. It has gotten to the point where now we even hear health advice saying dieting is bad for you! Now here is where the lines get kinda blurry, yes there are some diets that are bad for you.... I mean I would not recommend the twinkies diet to anyone, but the main thing about diets that is bad is how we think of them. As of right now I am sure the majority have an all or nothing mind set when it comes to your dieting. You may think diets have restrictions, or avoidances, and maybe even time lines. I am here to tell you there is another way, a more successful way to be on a "diet".
But first I want you to think of how you want to live.
In life in general we tend to see ourselves heading down a path, at the end of the path lets say is our dreams or our goals. To reach our goals we had down this path. Sometimes we stray, or stop and look around, but we never completely abandon our goal. Rarely do we turn and run in the opposite direction. Sure we may take a few steps back or side steps but our goals are there, sometimes they change but still none the less they are there.
Now what if your goal at the end of the path was to get fit, look great in those jeans, run a 5k without walking, what ever your goal is, eating healthy will benefit you and help you get closer to meeting it.
So now imagine you are at work and it is someones birthday "AHHH I AM ON A DIET IF I HAVE ONE PIECE OF CAKE, FORGET THAT GOAL EVER EXISTED"
Doesn't seem logical right? But this is an extreme version of what often happens to people on ridged diets, they believe it is all or nothing.
What if we thought of it in one of these ways "Well I have been making great progress on my path to my goal lately, so if I take a pause here and enjoy myself for a moment it can't hurt, as long as I remember to get back on my way to my goal" acknowledging that I may be taking a little longer route today but I am still on my way. The road to success does not have to be a straight one.
You stop and think "gosh I have definitely been taking the long way lately, but I would like to reach my goal sometime, so I am going to say no today."
I know a big red light is going off in your head right now.... but what will people say! (and this is the part that really gets me)
I really wish I could tell you to say "F* um" when they diet shame you. But the truth is you can't. One easy option that when some one tries to diet shame you. Is to say "I actually have been enjoying plenty of things in life right now, so I don't want to overindulge today, thank you anyway" I mean you really can't argue with that. And if someone does push it further then that they are just making themselves look kinda silly.
Back to our path.
As long as we remember we are on one, it doesn't really matter how we get there, as long as we don't abandon it. Some roads are straight and narrow, some are wide and windy, and some are both, but as long as we don't think we are either on or off our path we will still manage to get there someday.