So it’s been awhile, I mean I have written about 50 blogs (at least) in my head... but to sit down and do it... I couldn’t find the right words and feelings until now. I know what you’re thinking new mom too busy, too tired, too different yada yada yada.... but HOLD UP
Not it at all...
To be perfectly honest I have been enjoying my time away
Thats right, you heard me- I have enjoyed my daughters first 10 months of life!
is that taboo or what!? I finally figured out why I was having such a hard time knowing what to say- society wants me to pick a side... mom who overcomes the struggle of motherhood or mom who gives in to the craziness...
but guess what I know a third option... I am loving me and motherhood and its challenges and its joys all at the same time!
And guess what else I don’t feel guilty for any of it!
The internet is saturated with all kinds of different content “mommy it’s okay to feel this and it’s okay to feel that” and guess what it sure as hell is! Also it’s okay to feel both, feel the same, or feel different.
I don’t think motherhood has to change you, but I’ll be surprised if it doesn’t change your priorities.
If you were a go getter before you will probably be a go getter again... if you liked to be way chill you probably wont suddenly find a second gear...
Motherhood doesnt necessarily alter your very being... and quite frankly I’m sick of the stigma that it does.
If you love being at home with babies and feel like a bad ass doing so good for you and/or you love being a mom but have someone help you in the child rearing process good for you too.
But please mommas and society stop trying to tell moms they need to pick or get to a mentality.
ALL MOMS OF ALL TYPES ARE BAD ASS
I am a mom and I am enjoying the many moments of motherhood and the types of mother I am, day by day as they come.
Somedays I am “boss mom”
Signing new clients and making dollar dollar bills y’all (Kyle probably wishes I was this mom more often... haha or maybe thats just my own ego)
Somedays I am “hott mess mom”
like seriously have you lived in FL and skipped a shower... too literal?
Somedays I am “Pintrest Insta mom queen”
nailed it! What can I say... and that outfit thooo
Somedays I am “fit mom”
but really those nursing calories
Somedays I am “entire season of Grey’s Anatomy mom”
I mean not a whole season because that’s literally 24 hrs but you know what I mean
and about 100 other “mom titles”
that is the beauty of life though isn’t it... we are not stuck in one category! The struggle is real and sometimes there is no struggle!
So on that note I want to talk about fitness and appearances
guess what mommas you don’t have to get that body back right away or even ever (physically idk if its possible to put the female body completely back) but if you want to workout go for it! And sweat your momma booty off as much as you would like! If you workout one day or seven its up to you! Physical health is up to you but that mental health is a priority and like I said you don’t have to change but your priorities probably will! Keep that mind and that heart strong for you and your families. You can’t fill other people’s glass if you’re empty! And if you get there by fitness, pintrest, therapist or even a little blue pill there is no shame in any mom game!
and there is especially no shame in enjoying the mom game!
And surprise none are because I don't have time or anything to do with my 15+ lbs baby!
also, disclaimer there is nothing wrong with lifting weights... this is not a scientific blog
I have been a trainer for almost 8 years now and in the fitness field for about 11... wait what... now I'm feeling my age.
I have worked in all types of fitness specialties but have more recently come to a realization- I DON'T want to just "lift weights". Now before I continue... I am not saying it is unhealthy... hear me out before you jump to any conclusions.
In the past week I have had several former clients come to me, in a kind of tail between the legs, saying "I just don't feel like working out anymore".... and personally I'm sitting there thinking man me too... But I didn't say it, I listened to their reasons and gave them some tips but here is what I hope they and anyone can take away from the below ideas....
The BEST workout is working out without feeling like you're WORKING!
Now Im not talking about working as in your heart and your muscles pumping, Im talking about your desire... I'm talking about that pulling teeth dragging fingernails gut feeling.... now I know there are some of you out there reading this thinking...well if I lost those last 10 lbs or made the team or what ever your end goal is.... I'll do it and I'll do it every day but the truth is when you do something that you would rather not do you are going to have a hard time with motivation.
So ME Personally here are my reasons for not lifting weights-
1. I wasn't Having FUN in the facility
Since having Alivia, I have come to realize. I don't want to go in a gym where there is no air, no sun, no cute baby girl... I want to explore and share and have FUN... thats not to say I did't at some time enjoy they gym but not right now, and hey thats just me.
2. I realized I was lying
When people would say "you look great" or ask "how are you getting back in shape? I would say "Thanks' I'm trying" but the truth is I'm not and I don't really want to...
Don't get me wrong... I want to be healthy
3. I was trying too hard
I don't want that to be my focus nor do I wan't to teach my daughter that "TRYING" to look a certain way is an important goal... A person should want to take care of his or her self... but have fun while you're at it and accept that there are things about your body you cannot change... Like I will never be 5'10 or even 5'3 as hard as I try.
Not "trying" to lose weight I have gotten back down to my pre-pregnancy weight I mean yes my body is different and yes its not the smallest I have been but I am also not
After unpacking our moving truck into a storage unit... 5 hours in on and off rain... and possibly some tears of frustration from me, Kyle proved to be the tetris king and also my knight in shining armor!
Our wonderful friends Mike and Mellisa are kind enough to let us stay with them while we prepare for our next adventure of figuring out where to live!
What you find here may or may not be fitness related. It may or may not be what you needed to hear, regardless it is what I needed to say!