To answer this question you have to decide what it takes to be the "coolest person" in your own mind. Then imagine that person has had the same life experiences you have had and has until now made all the same decisions. (Yes the coolest people can make mistakes to, so don't get hung up there.)
You have to ask what are the values this person holds?
What are they spending their time doing?
What are their goals?
What is that person doing to achieve those goals?
And how do they act day to day?
After you have figured these things out ask yourself why are you not doing them?
You may come up with reasons, or as some poeple like to call them excuses. Because think again of that cool person, the reason they are cool is because they didn't let things hold them back. They didn't get overwhelmed. They took a bite out of life and swallowed.
So how do YOU become that person?
Well you wake up and you do what that person would do. You listen to your heart, not your fear. You go for it! And even if your story doesn't go exactly how that cool person in your head is, you will never know if you don't try and some of the coolest people are the ones with stories to tell of how they took chances.
So whats cool to you? and how will you be cooler today?
The first part of any journey is figuring out what you want to achieve, for some that is easy and others it is much more difficult. But once you got that it is smooth sailing right?.... you start off all gung ho and nothing will ever stop you..... Oh how we wish that was true. Not saying it never happens but more often then not life has this way of "happening". When life happens your plans and your goals some how seem, well, less important... But that's not to say you don't still really want them. So I was thinking I wanted to share some tricks that I use in my life to stay on track be it a fitness goal, career goal, or personal goal.
When trying to achieve something:
1. Figure out what tools you have; resources, facilities, contacts. Write them down because later when you are all frazzled and in that moment where you think "oh I have no one to help me and no where to go" you can prove yourself wrong and finish you moment of stress and move on.
2. When you go to write these tools down be realistic and identify which tools you will actually work for you. Don't sign up for a gym if you know that thats the last place you want to be when your stressed.
3. Also, make sure you feel comfortable with your tools. If you have a contact that you would be too intimidated to reach out to disregard it. Acknowledge what you are comfortable with and strengthen those resources.
4. Plan for change and expect delays. For example, In long distance racing I often plan on missing at least one of my long runs during the training season. So I build in buffer weeks in my schedule allowing myself extra time incase I hit some road bumps along the way.
5. Have fun with what you decide to do! When in our lives did our goals become something we dreaded. Think back to when you were a kid, you would have little goals all the time and not even think about them. Also, if you didn't necessarily reach them you didn't beat yourself up about not climbing the tallest tree, or holding your breath as long as you could or having the biggest water balloon. You just went from one great task to the next and enjoyed the journey, and if you didn't like it you changed your plans. So be like a kid have fun and enjoy the journey!
.... or for the first time again.
Like many things in life you have to use a skill to not lose it.
After running the marathon I took about a month off of running. And on my first run back this is how I felt:
My mental dialogue on a 15 min run.
"oh, its so nice to outside. Hmmm that is a weird feeling in my ankle...
Man, my knee kinda hurst. Ouch my feet are breaking. Maybe I didn't rest enough... Today is not the day Im supposed to start running.... Okay okay just keep going, you can't wish yourself in shape Casey. Plus you have to show your clients that if you can do it so can they.... My ankle is definitely injured.... I wonder how long I have been running... 7:00 minutes... thats it. okay at least go 1 mile.... I was made to run, this is my natural state... its so pretty on this trail... Oh my gosh I can't breath... I'm going to die... Oh shoot here comes another runner smile, say hi, hmm I could speak that is surprising... Maybe I'm not going to fall over an pass out. Okay turn the corner and then I'll check my watch.... 10:00 minutes. Oh my gosh.... okay okay 5 more minutes I can do that. Oh here comes a car, good form good form, oh man my skin itches, why does it itch soo bad, and why does it feel like it is jiggling, hopefully my butt isn't jiggling.... Im just going to run faster the turn is right there.... run run run.... okay that wasn't that bad... how much longer... 3 mins... oh no I better slow down.... Why do I do this? I could just lift more weights... lift weights fast... thats a kind of cardio.... okay just finish.... 15 mins! yes I can stop!.... walk walk walk.... stretch.... That wasn't so bad... I think Ill try again in a day or two...."
So no matter if its your first run ever or your first run back I want you to realize two things....
YES IT HURTS
YES YOU CAN MAKE IT THROUGH.
When people ask me about training or running they ask does it ever get easier?
I tell them no, you only get stronger or faster.
But here are a few tips to get past those first couple runs:
1. Set small goals. I have been running for years, but every time I start over my first few runs are about 15 mins long
2. Take it slow. You don't need to rush, anything is faster then not running so take your time and enjoy the fact that you got up and moving no matter the speed.
3. Have goals within your goal. I like to take pictures so when I first start running I make goals to get to a spot and take a picture. Or I like running on the beach so I will run fast until I get to the beach then a slow my pace down and enjoy the view. Once I am back on the road I pick it up again. I have also picked flowers or climbed rocks... What ever you like but make it more than a run.
4. Make plans for after your run. Tell a friend lets meet after my run. Then you have made a plan to hold yourself accountable because you have told someone about your goal and it will also give you something to talk about when you see them. Or if you make plans you can't spend all day putting of exercise. Also when you exercise before doing something it often gives you more energy.
SO get out there, let it hurt... because it will... but you will feel better having done it then not!
WARNING VERY PERSONALLY OPINIONED POST!
I have been wanting to write this post for awhile now, but could not quite think of how to articulate it correctly. But sometimes you just have to put it out there.
Now, I know your first thought may be that as someone in the "Fitness" industry my opinion might be biased. But I know if you think that it is only because you don't know me. I like to think of what I do as more of a "healthful living suggestion giver". Yes the service my clients pay for is to guide them through physical activity, but I only do so after a sit down meeting where we talk about their goals and wants. I suggest what is realistic and healthy for the body and mind. I also advice every one of my clients on what a healthy weight is for them and refuse to train someone under that weight or body fat percentage. I often tell people that if they are looking for something other then a healthy way of living they may not want to employ me.
The thing that really gets me is all of this "fat vs skinny vs too fit". A truly healthy person comes in all shapes and sizes. Yes it takes work, No it should not over run your life. That is why it is called a "HEALTHY BALANCE"
Everyone's healthy balance is different. and guess what it looks different too!
We do not live in a world of absolutes. So when I see articles about people talking about being "FAT AND HAPPY" quite frankly IDGAF are you "FAT AND HEALTHY" because you can be, you can also be "THIN AND UNHEALTHY" forget the aesthetic aspect of that statement.
Ask yourself are you "HEALTHY AND HAPPY"?
Because if you are not healthy guess what you wont be happy for very long! Doesn't matter if your thin or fat.
I have known some of the thinnest unhealthy and unhappy people in the world... Shoot I have been there myself. And same goes the other way I have been fat and unhealthy too. Both sides were not very fun because I was unhealthy.
Be it mind or body when one isn't right you wont feel great for long. YOU GOTTA HAVE BOTH!
My weight fluctuates all the time, but I don't feel it, and honestly unless you are an overly critical person, which I don't need in my life, that doesn't define who I am to you. The key aspect is that I am healthy.
I don't focus on how I look fat or thin, because when I do it messes with who I am. So why do that to myself? I am the most balanced minded when I am being honest with myself about how I take care of myself. Am I doing to much or to little, am I eating to much or too little, most importantly
AM I TAKING CARE OF MY MIND AND MY BODY? TOO MUCH OR TOO LITTLE??
I like to believe that my clients, my friends, and my family, accept me and respect me because I am real myself and with them. I often have to tell my clients to relax and live a little because they start to fear having a little fun will ruin their progress. At the same time, I will be the first to say, yea this workout is hard because you are paying for that abundance of fun you had this weekend.
My Mental Suggestion for you:
When finding a healthy balance think of your body as a bank:
Income Resources: Physical activity and Healthy mindfulness
Tax: Based on effort put towards physical activity and internal resistance towards healthy mindfulness
Expenses: Unhealthy activities and Unhealthy mindfulness
So if your body is a bank and health is your currency it plays out rather simply:
Just like with any currency there is a tax, the more you add the higher the tax. When you do too much physical activity it is too taxing on you body. So you want to find your own comfortable tax bracket. Be mindful of taxing your body to depletion.
You use your currency by doing unhealthy activities, like not sleeping, working too much and having a unbalanced diet.
So what you want to do is build your health bank account without taxing to much and also without sending yourself into debt by doing unhealthy things all the time.
Keep in mind just like your actual financial situation is personal, unique and private to you, so is your health.
And once again quite frankly it is no one else's business unless you decide to share it with them.
Your HEALTH IS YOUR WEALTH
and on one final note:
How you decide to display it is up to you!