So here is one example:
That girl in that photo looks like she is always confident and comfortable no matter what she is wearing, doing or saying....right....
Well, things may not always be what they seem.
Now before anyone jumps to the rescue to quickly help me remember that I am fit... let me explain!
I bring this up not to draw attention to myself but to use my story as an example.
As a trainer I can take a step back and re-evaluate what I see and appreciate my progress! and yes I am PSYCHED!
But unfortunately, like many people, I am too used to beating myself up for not being "picture" perfect. So sometimes I may forget what I know and only believe a lie my eyes are telling me.
Which brings me to what I want to talk about!
I know many women and men who have done one of two things if not both.... Built up an image of their ideal self in their head that no diet, fitness plan, or extreme measures could live up to.... so it is impossible to be satisfied.
To make things even worse they have also internally verbally attacked themselves so much that no matter what is really in the mirror the image in their head is already broken.
Think about what an up hill battle that is.
It is a battle that believe it or not you are in control of....
Wait WHAT... We get to decide how we feel about ourselves?
To some this may be obvious, but for some of us this is such a foreign thought, that it seems unbelievable maybe even impossible.
I once was told to practice a confidence building exercise to look in the mirror and say "hey you hot thing, you are awesome" . You would think it was to help like how I look but it was more to help how I feel... and you know what... The two correlate.... When I am happy I find myself more attractive.... and you know what so do other people too.
Another example of this same kind of thing was a friend of mine once told me she looked at herself in the mirror everyday in high school and told herself you are beautiful and when I asked her why, she said because it made her feel better.
Our ideas become our habits.
Our habits become who we are.
I don't know anyone who doesn't want to feel good about themselves. So next time you are in the mirror create what you want to see.
Find something you like.
Feel good about something.
Don't believe the lie that you have trained your eyes to see, look through new eyes.
Appreciate what you got to work with!
Because..... HEY YOU! YES YOU! SEXY THING, YOU ARE AWESOME!
I'm always working on this one.... and that is okay, because we can always be more AWESOME!