The 4 Agreements
So to be completely honest I have had some major bloggers block.... I'd say writers block but I feel like what I do on my blog is a little more like rambling but with a positive connotation.... so bloggers block, like real bad, I think I have 14 drafts over here... but sometimes you just got to move on to say what you actually wanna say. Since I can't seem to find my own words today I am going to share with you the 4 agreements.
So I was introduced to the 4 agreements solely by my dad. Apparently, they are originally presented to us by Miguel Ruiz. (Thank you daddy for not tricking me into thinking you made them up because I would have believed you) Now, as most daddies girls are, I am predisposed to believing my dad is the smartest man in the world (except when he says no to me).... Anyway, over the years my dad has shared many ideas with me, this is one of my favorite parts of our father daughter dynamic, but the 4 agreements might just be my favorite. So instead of sharing with you today one of my personal ideas I thought I'd share these.
Lets start with what the agreements themselves are:
1) Be impeccable with your word
2) Don't take anything personal
3) Don't make assumptions
4) Always do your best
Now this is all I know of any of Ruiz's work... I have not read his books or heard him speak or anything of the sort. But I am in love with these ideas, and here is why:
Ever since my dad has told me these 4 agreements I have found that if I remember them and hold them true to myself. Not only do I feel better but I also am a better person for it.
Let me give you some examples of each:
When I am impeccable with my word not only do I become more task oriented and get things done, but I also don't make promises I can't keep. And good character is something I think we all in one way or another aspire to exude. When this is taking place and I it is also easier not to take things personal. In life people people may let you down, go back on their word or hurt you in one way or another but it is when we see it as something to do with them and not ourself it gives us the ability to be introspective and not assume. As long as I don't assume things I can believe all of the above statements are true. Another saying that my parents have ingrained in me over the years, more for the intent of helping my horrible spelling was "don't make an ass out of you and me (ass-u-me)" Which has also seemed to hold true in the other since too. When you assume you're picking one out come over another and it will either make that person seem like an ass or yourself and no one wants that. Which brings us to, if you're doing your best then you can only hope for the best. And if you are doing your best at the other 3 agreements they will hold true too.
So you may be thinking okay cool, good share but maybe why? Well I feel like without thinking of the 4 agreements I might get so frustrated sometimes I'd just stop doing everything. In short term it may seem easier to blame others, feel attacked, and make assumptions, but in the long run life will play out how its going to play out and you can only control you and your actions so why worry and put things on others and out their in your environment that may not be true. When I remember to focus on the 4 agreements they help me stay motivated and to help others.
(caution some real talk below)
Personally, I feel like I have been struggling with "why" lately.
Why do this, why do that, why be here, why help, why care.... why why why...
Negativity breeds negativity and I needed a smack in the right direction (sometimes we need a nudge but I needed a full on wack) I think sometimes people are surprised when they hear that I consider how I am feeling as negative, I mean I will admit comparatively it might not be thhhaat negative, but for me it is. I mean hey I like my rainbow and gumdrop world, and sometimes that make a slight case of the blues for me seem extra dreary. As the song "I don't care I love it" pops in my head all I can say is thats the truth I love being happy and making others feel happy and when I forget that a good reminder of the 4 agreements really helps.
A lot of life can be helped by slowing down and going back to the basics. For me the 4 agreements are a great set of basics to follow no matter what issue in life I am facing. It doesn't matter if it is training goals or personal they really seem to help me. So I hope by sharing them they help you as much as they do me!
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